Hi, I’m Sarah Tomchesson.
Above all, I am a wholehearted believer that pleasure is not a luxury.
I am a Certified Sex Educator and Embodiment Coach, with 18 years experience. I started my career working with incarcerated parents and their families where I was first exposed to community-based sex ed.
I came of age in the queer liberation movement inspired by riot grrrls, when butch/femme dynamics were a reclamation and gay marriage was not on anyone’s radar. I am now a midlife parent going through perimenopause alongside a kid going through puberty, which is both magical and maddening. I am divorced. The process turned me inside out and fundamentally changed how I approach relationships (for the better). Deprogramming from co-dependent conditioning is “my work”.
Despite what western, patriarchal, puritanical, christian culture has tried to drill into us, pleasure is a much needed anecdote to the pressures and traumas of the world we have inherited. Pleasure can be the ray of light that softens the edges of life. I want people to have permission to experience more pleasure in their life. Because of my background in expansive sex ed, my definition of pleasure integrates the erotic, but I do not view sexual pleasure as the end all be all. If the erotic is not your main source of joy or daily satisfaction, you are not alone. For many of us, cultivating simple daily pleasures is the best way to expand the joy in our lives, and to care for and connect intimately with ourselves and our community. When you are able to find joy or peace in, say, your morning routine you have a grounding point to work with to expand that pleasure into other areas of your life.
I have spent two decades both fighting for liberation and helping individuals find liberation within themselves through pleasure practices. I have built a career around making pleasure, desire, sensuality, self love and self acceptance more accessible.
In addition to my client work, I work with the Magic Wand brand, co-host of the feminist podcast F*ck Yeah, and volunteer my time with SIECUS - Sex Ed for Social Change. In my “me” time you can find me hiking around California, working out at the Y, cooking for friends and fam, chasing hot springs, and cuddling my fam and our crew of furry rescues.
