Hi, I’m Sarah Tomchesson.
I am a wholehearted believer that pleasure is not a luxury.
I started my career at an organization serving incarcerated parents and their families. This is where I was first exposed to community-based sex ed, informally answering questions and offering support. I eventually went on to get certified as a sex educator and later a sex and relationship coach. I have 18 years experience working with individuals and couples.
I came of age in the queer liberation movement steeped in riot grrrl music, activist culture, and performance art. I am now a midlife parent going through perimenopause alongside a kid going through puberty, which is both magical and maddening. My co-parent and I separated nearly 10 years ago. The process turned me inside out and fundamentally changed how I approach relationships (for the better). Deprogramming from co-dependent conditioning is “my work”. Doing the work has made me a better coach, parent, partner, and better advocate for myself.
Despite what western, patriarchal, puritanical, christian culture has tried to drill into us, pleasure is a much needed anecdote to the pressures and traumas of the world we have inherited. My work is centered in supporting individuals and couples find more pleasure, self-love, acceptance and liberation in their life.
My definition of pleasure integrates the erotic, but I do not view sexual pleasure as the end all be all. If the erotic is not your main source of joy or daily satisfaction, you are not alone. For many of us, cultivating simple daily pleasures is the best way to expand the joy in our lives.
In addition to my client work, I work with the Magic Wand brand, co-host of the feminist podcast F*ck Yeah, and volunteer my time with SIECUS - Sex Ed for Social Change. In my “me” time you can find me hiking around California, lifting heavy weights at the Y, cooking for friends and fam, chasing hot springs, and cuddling my fam and our crew of furry rescues.
